Tuesday, October 16, 2012
Conversation Blockers
After observing yourself for nearly a week, please (DUE FRI OCT 19 MIDNIGHT)
1) Describe the conversation blockers you used.
2) Did you notice that there were certain blockers you used more than others?
3) Now that you have an idea of your conversation blockers, what can you do to prevent yourself from using them?
4) How can you become a better communicator by becoming more self-aware?
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1) Describe the conversation blockers you used.
ReplyDeleteIgnoring:
A friend of mine was telling me about a bad situation that he was living. He expected to be advise but I didn’t put attention to him because I was thinking in something else.
Name calling:
I called "Richard Clayderman" to a friend in the church because he brags so much about his talent.
“Always”/ “never” statements:
I said to my brother: try to be more organized. You always have a mess in your bed.
Judging:
My sister introduced me a friend and I thought that she was a bad person just because she had two earrings in one ear and tattoos. After I shared with her I realized that she wasn’t a bad girl.
Sarcasm
Last Sunday there was a blackout in my neighborhood. Somebody said: oh! It's rather dark in here. As a response I said: really?
2) Did you notice that there were certain blockers you used more than others?
Yes. In my case I noticed that I used sarcasm and “Always/never” statements more than the others blockers.
3) Now that you have an idea of your conversation blockers, what can you do to prevent yourself from using them?
I have to pay more attention to people when they talk to me. It’s a disrespect not do it.
I have to learn to accept people with their personalities. I have to stop judging before meeting someone.
I shouldn't give what I wouldn't like to receive. I have to stop calling people by nicknames because I wouldn't like to be in that position.
4) How can you become a better communicator by becoming more self-aware?
I have to think before to speak more often and I should evaluate my communication style once in a while.
1. Describe de conversation blockers you used.
ReplyDeleteIgnoring
My sister and my mother are Christian evangelic so she was talking to me that Jesus is coming and the people that are not converted aren’t go to heaven and is making me late, that I have to become evangelic, at the beginning I was paying attention and trying to tell her than that is not true, we all are song of god, but I was getting annoy and I stop to talk with her and I just look the other side. I put this one in talking too much either.
Blaming
The last Thursday I bought a box of Donnas, I said in home that no one can’t eat them, when come back from work there was one less, and I blame my mother that she eat it, but wasn’t her was my sister, I blamed her because she always do that, I know is my mother but she taught us that we don’t take things don’t belong to us.
2. Did you notice that there were certain blockers you used more than others?
Yes. I often use blaming and negative language, but the second one I’m trying to avoid it because is affecting my career and my job, because of that I didn’t used it last week, I had a goal and I achieved.
3. Now that you have an idea of your conversation blockers, what can you do to prevent yourself from using them?
I have to try to understand what people want to tell me and give my opinion without hurt anyone.
I have to trust in myself in what I say, think and analyzed the way I act.
I have to ask and investigate first before blame anyone, which can bring me problems in my future and my professional career.
4. How can you become a better communicator by becoming more self-aware?
I have to think before talk, listen the person and try that the other feels comfortable with me.
1) Describe the conversation blockers you used.
ReplyDeleteI used to use:
Ignoring : When my grandmother is talking to me, sometimes I ignore her thinking or doing something else .In most cases I do it unconsciously , when I’m busy or with many things to do.
Blaming: I used to blame my boyfriend for some attitudes and behaviors that I assume in some situations, which I think are caused by him.
Contradicting: That happens when I don’t agree with what the person I'm talking to is saying, but I don’t interrupt the person while she is talking, I just wait until the end and then express my idea.
“Always”/ “never “statements and “you “statements: I use this when I tell my boyfriend "you never understand me"
Given unsolicited advice: I don’t do it often, and when I do this I do it in a good way and in private.
2) Did you notice that there were certain blockers you used more than others?
Yes, the ones that I use the most are:
“Always”/ “never “statements and “you “statements and Blaming
3) Now that you have an idea of your conversation blockers, what can you do to prevent yourself from using them?
I think that knowing the kind of conversation where I am, and looking for the reasons that make me use these blockers will help me to control my emotions and ideas to not let them affect me, and to use as less as possible blockers.
4) How can you become a better communicator by becoming more self-aware?
When I study my behavior in each type of conversation, asking myself why I behave in certain ways? to get to know me. Then you know how to act in a more conscious way.
1)Ignoring: my father started complaining about something "I did", so instead of arguing with him I put my headphones on and ignored him all the way to university.
ReplyDeleteName calling: I do it all the time, but never with bad intentions. It's just a way to interact with my friends. Inside that social circle it is very normal, and I never ever name call someone who isn't part of my circle of friends. I know how badly name calling can destroy relationships.
Sarcasm: My mother asked me if the necklace she wanted to buy online was cute. I said "oh yeah, sure" in a very sarcastic way... but she didn't even notice.
2)I did notice that sarcasm comes out of me almost naturally (I'll have to work on that)and I also noticed that I ignore a lot, and I certanly don't enjoy when someone does it with me (also working on that).
3)Be more aware of the kind people I talk to, and the situations I find myself in. If for some reason I do not think before acting (in this case talking)I will have to apologise, so that the other person knows that what I just did wasn't on purpose.
4)That will help me to realize how badly I'm acting, so I can correct it. That has to happen before I employ my conversation styles. It would also help me to have better conversations with people that are not part of my social circle.
1) Describe the conversation blockers you used.
ReplyDelete*blame. I invite a friend to my house to study and she didn't show up, so i told her that if i failed the test it was going to be her fault
*negative language. I told my mother that i was going to fail a test.
*Ignore. A friend was telling me something and I turn on the music.
*Interrupt. My cousin was talking and I interrupted her to say something.
2) Did you notice that there were certain blockers you used more than others?
Yes. The blockers i use the most are negative language and blaming.
3) Now that you have an idea of your conversation blockers, what can you do to prevent yourself from using them?
Be more self-aware
4) How can you become a better communicator by becoming more self-aware?
Self Awareness allows you to understand other people, how they perceive you, your attitude and your responses to them in the moment.
1) Describe the conversation blockers you used.
ReplyDeleteIngoring: My boyfriend was talking to me, but I was looking images on 9gag.com, so I was so focused that i don´t pay attention to him, and I ignore him.
Negative Language: I use "no" sentences everytime.
Always/Never: I told my boyfriend that he always bothers me. My father and I use a lot always/never expressions each other.
You statement: I said to my sister: "It´s your fault that I couldn't go to my friend's house".
2) Did you notice that there were certain blockers you used more than others?
Yes, I use a lot always/never statements and Negative Language. People can think that I'm a negative person.
3) Now that you have an idea of your conversation blockers, what can you do to prevent yourself from using them?
I need to be more careful, more self-aware, see my own expressions,and be proud to correct it.
4) How can you become a better communicator by becoming more self-aware?
If you can understand your own expressions, you can see others one, the way that others can see you and maybe think about you, and you can be a better communicator if you can can correct your mistakes
1) Describe the conversation blockers you used.
ReplyDeleteSarcasm: I use it all the time with my friends.
Name calling: I enjoy name calling people, but not in a bad way.
Blaming: if someone has the fault, I have to blame them.
“Always” “never” statements: I use it when I see that something is no possible.
Ignoring: When someone gets annoying, I start to ignore them.
2) Did you notice that there were certain blockers you used more than others?
Yes, the blockers I most use are sarcasm and name calling.
3) Now that you have an idea of your conversation blockers, what can you do to prevent yourself from using them?
To prevent me from using them, I could think before I say something.
4) How can you become a better communicator by becoming more self-aware?
You could become a better communicator because you could see everything you do wrong and try and find a solution to fix it.
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ReplyDelete1)The convesation blockers I used:
ReplyDeleteSarcasm: My mother painted the apartment, she asked my opinion about her work and I replied: " Certainly, just like Picasso would have done it". Of coarse with the funny intention.
''Always\never'' statements: Its use is becoming to frequent, I generally use it in situations between me and my mother.... Why? I don't have logical explanation...
Ignoring: Typical case in which someone speaks to you but you are so "disconnected" from reality that people might think you are under the effects of something or else.
2) I have to say that I use generally always/never statements, and its becoming something very frequent and almost automatic in my conversational style so I have to work on it.
3) I must refrain myself in any moment posible from using the blocker and in the case of always\never statements, changing the always and never with other words for example generally for always and so on.
4) I know with being self-aware not only the causes of the things I say and my response to the things being said to me but this way I get to know the reaction, whether positive or negative, of something I said to others.
**Had to delete previous comment because of some gramatical errors and also lacked some info**
1) Describe the conversation blockers you used.
ReplyDeleteIgnoring: When people talk to me and i dont want to pay attention to them, or when they tell me things that are irrelevant.
I used it with a friend of mine, he was telling me things that i allready know.
Sarcasm: I use it a lot with my friends and my sister, specially when they ask stupid questions or say illogical things.
Last week, my sister called me and after 5 minutes she asked me: What are you doing, and obviusly i was talking to her, and i used sarcasm.
Interrupt, i was talking with some friends and interrpted the conversation several times.
2) Did you notice that there were certain blockers you used more than others?
Yes, i think taht i use sarcasm a lot, specially with my close friends and my sister.
3) Now that you have an idea of your conversation blockers, what can you do to prevent yourself from using them?
I need to be more calmed when im talking, a lot of people tell me that i talk to fast, so i should be more pasive and listen better to others.
4) How can you become a better communicator by becoming more self-aware?
To be self-aware is a great idea, is just to think a little bit before talking and try to dont offend others persons when your talking.
1) Describe the conversation blockers you used.
ReplyDeleteIgnoring: when im driving my mom gets crazy and start to say every minute wacth out.. watch out!
Name calling: but its mutual, its just between a group of friend.
Interrupt: when a friend of mine tell me i need to talk with you, almost everytime i finish telling them my story instead of hearing theirs.
2) Did you notice that there were certain blockers you used more than others?
yes, the one i think i use the most is name calling, but never hurting anyone.
3) Now that you have an idea of your conversation blockers, what can you do to prevent yourself from using them?
Be more conscious when im talking to other and also when others are talking to me, respect their moment.
4) How can you become a better communicator by becoming more self-aware?
you become a better communicator because you are more conscious of your mistakes and you can fix them.
1) Describe the conversation blockers you used.
ReplyDelete-Ignoring : i use to distract when i need to pay atention to someone or to something im doing.
-Name calling: i usually put nicknames to the other people but not to make someone feel bad , just for fun.
2) Did you notice that there were certain blockers you used more than others?
The conversation blocker i use the most is the name calling.
3) Now that you have an idea of your conversation blockers, what can you do to prevent yourself from using them?
I think i have to pay more attention to the thing im doing and the people who talks to me, and try to dont put nicknames to other people.
4) How can you become a better communicator by becoming more self-aware?
Thinking what im going to say and how i am going to express my ideas.